The 5 most common fetishes and kinks

If you've ever heard the word fetish, you've almost certainly also heard of a foot fetish. These and other fetishes and kinks are so common that you definitely have one yourself, and all of us have at least heard of them. If nowhere else, then while watching The Bachelor, who admitted that feet turn him on too. In fact, this is one of the most common fetishes and kinks!

Fetish vs Kink

People often think the words kink and fetish mean the same thing, but in reality, that's not quite the case.

A fetish is something a person needs in order to become aroused or enjoy sex at all. For some, simply thinking about it is enough, while for others it has to be present for them to be satisfied with sex.

A fetish is therefore a bit more intense than a kink. If, for example, you have a foot fetish, feet must be necessarily included in sex, otherwise you probably won't get aroused at all.

With a kink, feet would be more or less the icing on the cake; if they're included, you find it really sexy, but if they aren't, you're not too disappointed either. A kink is therefore something that excites you, but it isn't necessary for pleasure.

If, for example, you get aroused when you hear two neighbors giving in to passion, then that's kinky. But you have a fetish when you absolutely have to listen to them in order to get aroused.

Foot fetish

Now that you know the difference between a fetish and a kink, we can continue with the foot fetish.

Many people like feet, but not everyone has the same desires when it comes to them. Some enjoy looking at bare feet, while others like shoes. Some fantasize about what kind of feet are hidden inside footwear, while others want to see feet in socks. We could basically go on listing examples forever.

Many people would think that something is seriously wrong with someone who is turned on by feet, but experts say this is completely normal. The only exception is when a fetish negatively affects your life. It would be worrying if, for example, you were a doctor who always thoroughly examined your patients' feet, regardless of what was wrong with them.

Despite how common it is, foot fetishism still raises many questions, because no one knows exactly where the fixation on feet (and other kinks and fetishes) comes from.

Spanking (impact play)

Spanking is practiced by many people, even if they wouldn't describe themselves as kinky. It spices up their sex life, but they don't necessarily include it every time. Some are aroused by pain, others by the feeling of helplessness, while on the other side there are those who enjoy dominance or inflicting pain.

This is one of the kinks for which you practically don't need any accessories; a hand is enough. But when that becomes too little, there are countless different paddles, whips, floggers ... You certainly won't get bored!

Group sex

Group sex is any sex that involves three or more people. It is becoming more and more popular and normalized, which is why dating apps also have more and more couples looking for a third person to join them in bed.

There are different types of group sex. We've already mentioned threesomes; next are gangbangs, where all the attention is focused on one person - usually a woman. When everyone has sex with everyone, it's called an orgy, and if someone ever invites you to dogging, it doesn't mean you're going to walk dogs. This is also one form of group sex, which usually looks like having sex in a public place while others watch you or even join you.

Bondage

Bondage is a fetish that represents the first letter in the acronym BDSM - B stands for bondage. A huge number of people have this fantasy, and the Fifty Shades of Grey series contributed to that as well.

If bondage is your kink and you want to try it, make sure you do it with someone who knows what they're doing and that scissors are also within reach. But if it's your fetish, I'm sure you're already familiar with all of this.

Role play

You probably already understand what role play means, since the name speaks for itself - you pretend to be someone else. Couples often decide to do things like this when they have been together for a long time and feel that the bedroom has become boring. They often include different costumes and other accessories. These make it easier for them to get into a new role. Some even prepare a script because they want a very specific scenario, while others prefer to improvise.

The most common role plays are, for example, doctor and patient, teacher and student, boss and employee, stripper and client, police officer and criminal, human and animal, etc. We could go on and on.

Fetishes and kinks have as many different faces and forms as there are different people, but now you at least know the basics.