Female ejaculation - squirting

Do you know about female ejaculation - aka squirting? Until recently it wasn’t talked about much; many women don’t know it, haven’t experienced it, or think they peed on their partner or the bed during sex and feel embarrassed because of it. If you want to know what squirting really is and how to achieve it, read on. 

What is female ejaculation?

It’s a phenomenon where fluid flows from the vulva or vagina during or before orgasm. It’s also known as “squirting” or “gushing”. It’s a misconception that all women ejaculate every time they orgasm. Not true - some do it often, some never.

In the early ’80s, doctors believed the fluid that comes from the vagina was urine and suggested Kegel exercises to strengthen the vaginal muscles.

Of course, some studies were done. They performed ultrasounds before sex to confirm the women’s bladders were empty; they repeated the ultrasound just before the women reached orgasm - and the bladder was full. An ultrasound after orgasm and ejaculation showed the bladder was empty again. They also checked the fluid composition: in two women the composition matched their urine sample exactly given before the study; in five women the sample, in addition to urine, also contained fluid similar to the chemical makeup of the prostate.

But women don’t have a prostate. Wrong - recent research shows they do. So if you want to experience ejaculation, you first need to find the prostate, which is near the G‑spot. In squirting it plays a big role and is located in almost the same place as the prostate in men.

So is squirting basically just urine? Yes and no. Research has shown that most of the fluid is urine, and a smaller portion is fluid secreted from the prostate when the G‑spot is stimulated.

Can you learn to squirt?

Woman with a vibrator

Yes. You’ll reach female ejaculation by stimulating the G‑spot. The G‑spot area is connected to the urethra; with stimulation you’ll feel pressure in the bladder, so empty it before you begin. Find the position that works best for you and your partner so the G‑spot stimulation is maximal and penetration deeper (e.g., man behind or woman on top). Your partner should apply firm pressure to the G‑spot while you both also stimulate the clitoris. When you’re right on the edge, push with your pelvic floor muscles, rather than clenching them as most women do.

Of course, you can ejaculate without a partner by using a sex toy. The most suitable is a rabbit vibrator, because it stimulates your clitoris during penetration.

Not every woman can ejaculate, so don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t happen. The reasons can vary - from weak pelvic floor muscles (you can strengthen them with Kegel exercises and vaginal balls) to difficulty relaxing. If relaxing is the issue, try again; if you can’t relax in front of a partner, try on your own with a vibrator or another sex toy.

In theory, every woman can experience it, so keep trying. Practice makes perfect, so be persistent!