Masturbation for women: 28 tips and tricks for solo play

Just like any other exercise, masturbation is a great way to relax, improve your sleep, and live with less stress. Masturbation is safe and completely natural, and it helps you:

• Feel better
• Figure out what turns you on
• Release the sexual tension that builds up inside you

In the right measure it really has no downsides - and practically endless benefits. Not to mention it’s incredibly fun.

Read this article to the end to learn more about:

• Female masturbation
• How to start masturbating
• How to level it up so you truly satisfy yourself

What are the different types of masturbation?

There are 5 main types of masturbation for women. Below you can see what each type stimulates and how it usually feels. Of course, keep in mind that every woman is a little different, as every body responds differently to different kinds of stimulation:

1. Clitoral orgasm: during solo play, fingers are most often used for a clitoral orgasm. You play with your clitoris. You can also use different clitoral vibrators and other toys. When you reach a clitoral orgasm, you’ll feel tingles all over your skin and in your brain.
2. Vaginal orgasm: you can use your fingers or a sex toy to penetrate your vagina while masturbating. You’ll feel the orgasm deeper in your body, and the inner walls of your vagina will throb with pleasure.
3. Anal orgasm: use your fingers or a toy designed for anal stimulation; for deeper penetration a better toy is ideal. Right before orgasm you might feel a strong need to pee, but the muscle contractions will be concentrated around the anal sphincter.
4. Blended orgasm: this one depends entirely on your personal preferences. You can use your hands to play with your vagina and clitoris combined with a women’s sex toy. When you stimulate your clitoris and vagina - especially your G‑spot - at the same time, you’ll feel an explosive orgasm that can leave you in waves of contractions and can even lead to ejaculation.
5. Erogenous zones: while masturbating, you can rub, pinch, squeeze, and tug your nipples, inner thighs, ears, neck, and other parts of your body. These areas - your erogenous zones - can bring delicious sensations all over your body.

The clitoris is packed with thousands of nerve endings, making it the most sensitive part of your genitals. That’s why most women experience mostly clitoral orgasms.

How to get started?

Masturbation doesn’t have to end in orgasm. But if you’re in the mood and want to experience that endorphin release, there are a few things that can help guide your body to orgasm.

Set the scene. Your environment often makes the difference between reaching orgasm and not. Dim the lights or switch some off, light a candle, choose relaxing music, and prepare your space for sensual solo play.

Add lube. When you’re aroused, your body produces natural lubrication, which makes masturbation smoother and more pleasurable. But sometimes your body doesn’t produce enough lube - or any - even if that’s not usually an issue. So always keep some lube on hand for moments like these.

Let your imagination lead the way. You can probably get turned on just by thinking about that hot guy you met last week. Let your imagination take you wherever it wants and fantasize about people and situations that send a tingle down your spine.

Take your time. There’s no need to rush masturbation. Experiment with techniques and take as much time as you need for your play. That’s how you’ll discover every possible sensation across your entire body.

Explore your erogenous zones. Playing with the erogenous zones all over your body can really light your fire. Think neck, ears, nipples, legs, and other spots that feel good when you touch them.

Put aside the toys you always use. Vibrators and dildos are a lot of fun, but they aren’t the only toys out there. Some women stimulate themselves with the shower on the clitoris, or by rubbing the vulva against a pillow. Give it a try!

Consider using erotica or porn. Letting your imagination run free is great, but it isn’t the only way. If you want to really fire up your mind, read a spicy book or watch a sexy video.

If you want to explore your clitoris

The visible part of your clitoris is a pearl-sized organ, often covered by a “hood,” which you’ll find at the top of the vulva where the inner labia meet.

The glans of your clitoris is about the size of a pea, but the actual structure is far more complex and detailed. The clitoris is packed with thousands of nerve endings, making it the most sensitive part of your genitals. That’s why most women experience mostly clitoral orgasms.

Clitoral orgasm

• Massage the fleshy area at the top of the pubic bone, glide your fingers along the outer and inner labia of the vulva
• Start rubbing your clitoris through the hood. You can also make a V with your index and middle fingers and slide them up and down along the sides of the clitoris. Find a rhythm that feels good.
• Move your fingers faster and with more pressure once your clitoris is wet or you’ve added lube. Increase pressure and intensity until you reach orgasm.
• Using a clitoral vibrator is a great way to stimulate your clit without needing your fingers. Simply move it over and around the clitoris until you finish.

If you want to try for a vaginal orgasm

Despite popular myths, most women find it challenging to reach a vaginal orgasm. That doesn’t mean it can’t be fun!

Penetrating your vagina with fingers or a sex toy can bring immense pleasure - even if you don’t end up orgasming.

If you want to see stars, try experimenting with G‑spot stimulation - a spot on the inner wall of your vagina. With continuous, firm stimulation of this area you can reach a vaginal orgasm, and even ejaculate.

Vaginal orgasm

• First massage the vaginal opening, then slowly insert your fingers or a toy into the vagina. Make sure the vagina is moist and you’ve added enough lube to avoid unwanted friction and chafing.
• Start moving your fingers or toy in circular motions, in and out, or a combination of any movements. One of the best ways to stimulate the G‑spot is to move your fingers as if gesturing for someone to come closer.
• Increase speed and pressure as your whole body starts to throb from the stimulation and the tension builds. You might reach an explosive finish; if not, that’s OK too. Not all women can reach a vaginal orgasm.

If you want to experiment with anal stimulation

Who says anal orgasms are just for men? Women can orgasm from anal stimulation by indirectly stimulating the G‑spot through the wall between the vagina and rectum.

But remember: always, always use lube, because the anus doesn’t lubricate naturally.

Anal orgasm

• Start by massaging around and just inside the anal opening, then slowly insert a finger or a toy into the anus.
• Alternate between circular and in‑and‑out motions during anal penetration. Go faster and faster as the pleasure builds until you’re ready to orgasm.
• Experiment with toys! Anal vibrators, anal plugs, anal beads, and anal massagers can dramatically increase the intensity of your anal orgasm.

If you want to combine stimulation methods and erogenous zones

Many women experience incredible, unforgettable orgasms by stimulating both the vagina and clitoris at the same time.

Blended solo play will amplify your pleasure by stimulating all your sensitive areas at once. Touch and rub your erogenous zones during this time and enjoy a full‑body experience.

Blended orgasm

• During masturbation, you can use both hands - or a combination of fingers and sex toys - for vaginal and clitoral stimulation.
• Let go! Use parallel or contrasting rhythms on the clitoris and vagina at the same time. Vary speed and intensity on both, for example slow vaginal penetration with fast fingers on the clitoris.
• It’s all about experimenting! When it comes to stimulating erogenous zones and genitals, there are no wrong tries. Play with different touches, intensities, speeds, and how long you focus on each area. Use a tickly feather or your fingertips to glide over your whole body and stack even more pleasure.

5 positions for hot solo play

Masturbation shouldn’t be boring! Try different positions to level up your solo sessions and increase the pleasure you get from them. What can you try?

For clitoral stimulation: lie on your back

Yes, it may sound old‑school, but when it comes to clitoral stimulation, there’s no better position than lying on your back.

While on your back, put a pillow under your head, spread your legs, and bend your knees. Start rubbing your clitoris - go fast or slow, firm or gentle - whatever feels best to you.

For vaginal stimulation: try squatting

If you want an explosive orgasm, squatting is definitely one to try! In a squat you’ll find your G‑spot more easily, which is 5cm-7cm inside your vaginal canal.

Squat so your heels almost touch - or touch - the backs of your thighs. Then insert your fingers or a toy into your vagina and start moving deeper.

Use a mix of circular, up‑and‑down, left‑right, and in‑out motions - whatever feels best.

For anal masturbation: use face‑down doggy style

If you’re curious about anal stimulation, try doggy style with your face in the sheets - it opens you up to a lot of new pleasure. This position gives you the space you need to insert fingers or a toy into the anus with one hand while keeping the other free to play with your clitoris and vagina.

Get on all fours and lower your head to the bed or floor so your butt is higher than your head. Reach back to your anal opening with one hand while the other reaches your clitoris under your body.

For combining and erogenous zones

You probably know the cowgirl position? The Pretend Lover is like a cowgirl position for solo play.

Place your favorite dildo or vibrator on the bed, straddle it, and ride your toy as fast or as slowly as you want. Meanwhile, touch your body the way a lover would, and play with your nipples and clitoris.

Depending on the toy you have, you may need to steady it with one hand so you can penetrate comfortably.

Want to let go? Try a mirror

Playing in front of a mirror is a great way to really discover your body and what truly turns you on.

Sit in front of a big mirror with plenty of lube. Pour lube over your whole body - your chest, belly, thighs, vulva - and start gliding your hands over all your erogenous zones.

Squeeze, pinch, rub, and tug wherever you want - and pay attention to what excites you most.

One of the best ways to stimulate the G‑spot is to move your fingers as if gesturing for someone to come closer.

If you want to engage other senses

A sexy solo experience can include foreplay, too. Instead of jumping straight to direct stimulation, start slowly and open up all your senses before you really begin.

If you like reading

Erotic stories aren’t just fun to read - they’ll also open up your imagination and help you discover new sensual and sexual sides of yourself.

Naughty fiction will nudge you to fantasize and explore pleasures you didn’t know before - in a fun and safe way. You can easily find plenty of material online, including women’s erotica - stories written with a focus on women’s feelings and pleasure.

If visuals turn you on

It’s no secret that a lot of people enjoy watching porn - and why not?

Watching porn can:

• Boost your libido
• Ward off stress
• Let you explore new sexual interests in a safe way

You probably know how to find this content online, but it’s worth trying - especially for women - so‑called premium porn, which is paid. You won’t find it on free sites; the quality is much better, and you can find far more material made with women in mind. That means a more feminine view of emotions and sex, and how women experience orgasms. Worth a look.

If you love listening

Listening to sexy sounds can be just as - if not more - erotic and arousing as watching porn or reading erotic stories. Voices without visuals force you to switch on your imagination and vividly picture what’s happening. You can fantasize even more deeply and get lost in the details of the story.

You can easily find audio erotic stories online, too. Enjoy!

So what does it all mean?

You’ve seen that masturbation can be an incredibly fun and sexy activity that lets you discover all your desires and fantasies - and learn what turns you on most.

It also has positive effects on your health: you’ll sleep better, carry less stress on your shoulders, and release sexual tension - so there’s no reason not to take time for masturbation often.

If you’re new to masturbating, that’s no problem either. There’s no wrong way to masturbate as long as you enjoy it - and no one can tell you what the “right” kind of masturbation is.

Discover your body and find what feels best to you - what brings you the most intense sensations - and don’t forget to enjoy every second of it.