Foreplay = Better Sex

Foreplay mentally and physically prepares you for sex. The penis becomes erect, and the woman’s vagina lengthens and becomes wetter. You connect much more with your partner, become more aware of your body, and as a result enjoy it more. In addition, research shows that foreplay contributes to more intense orgasms.

Women are from Venus, men are from Mars

In some ways, men and women are quite similar, while in others we couldn’t be more different.

Did you know that women need, on average, 20 minutes to become aroused, while men can be ready in less than a minute? Of course, I’m generalizing, and individuals often differ from this average. The point is that when guys are with a girl, they need to take much more time than they think is enough.

Different strokes for different folks

Something that turns me on doesn’t necessarily turn you on too. That’s why it’s even more important to take your time and get to know your partner. And when something feels good, say so, so they’ll know for next time. I really say this every time, but the best thing you can do to have the best sex possible is to talk openly with your partner about everything you like, what you don’t like, and what you think you might like!

Some practical foreplay tips

First of all, foreplay isn’t just oral sex and manual stimulation of intimate areas. The best foreplay is when that only comes at the very end.

Erogenous zones

Erogenous zones are areas of our body that are very sensitive to touch, kisses, caressing... these include, for example, the ears, neck, and shoulders. The scalp is also very well innervated, so you can run your fingers through your partner’s hair or gently grab their hair while kissing. Then there are the arms and legs, which are extremely sensitive, especially at the bends. And while we’re talking about legs, an often-forgotten but incredibly sensitive area is the inner thighs.

And if you want to spice up foreplay a little more, you can also use a feather, an ice cube, or a vibrator for stimulation!

Toys

There are tons of toys that are great for use as a couple. For foreplay, various massage vibrators are especially popular.

Massage

And since we’re talking about massage, a full-body massage is an excellent foreplay idea. Add massage oil, or even better, massage lubricant. Finish the massage by focusing on the intimate areas too. A massage where you bring your partner to orgasm is called a ‘happy ending massage’.

Many women don’t have an orgasm during penetration, and if your partner is one of them, you can bring her to climax this way even before penetration!

Showering together

Get in the shower together and soap each other up in a way that really takes your time and carefully focuses on every part of the body. Let the soaping feel more like a massage than some intense scrubbing of dirty pots. And maybe the shower turns into sex in the shower, or freshly showered, you continue what you started in bed.

Sexting

Foreplay doesn’t necessarily start right before you and your partner decide to have sex. It can start much earlier, even before you’re together at all. Mental stimulation is just as important as physical stimulation. This lets your partner know you’re thinking about them even when they’re not with you, and at the same time it makes them look forward to seeing you even more.

Write a little note

Flirty little messages are mostly sent by phone these days. So for a change, write your partner a little note that you can hide in their wallet. Let them find it when you’re no longer together, or leave it somewhere they’ll find it later.

So, in short:

Foreplay is a very important part of sexuality, and most women in particular need it. Our bodies usually can’t get ready and aroused as quickly as men’s can.

And don’t forget that foreplay leads to more intense orgasms!

One more thing. Foreplay shouldn’t begin only when you’re already together in bed - or wherever you’re getting down to it. Whether you’re together or apart, show each other attention in different ways. And it doesn’t always have to be physical. In short, don’t underestimate the power that words and small gestures can have :)