BDSM accessories everyone needs!

Back in 2015 the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy hit the shelves and the world changed for good. The books rather vividly (and not always realistically) describe the dynamic between a submissive and a dominant in a BDSM relationship. And because practically every housewife on the planet read them, BDSM suddenly became something everyone talks about - including your church‑going neighbor. Kinky play is no longer reserved for the “most perverted”; more and more people are exploring it. So, do you know which BDSM accessories you’ll want on hand to make your nights even more fun?

Bondage

If restraint turns you on, you’ll definitely find something for you here. Among the most popular BDSM accessories are, of course, handcuffs - super simple to use. But you can tie with many other things, too.

There are special bondage tapes that look like electrical tape, but they don’t stick to skin - only to themselves.

And speaking of tying, don’t forget about rope! In Japan, an entire art form grew out of it called Shibari. It does, however, require time and skill.

If you use rope, you really need to know what you’re doing. Practice on furniture or on yourself before trying it on someone else. Be careful and precise. Always keep scissors nearby in case you need to cut the rope. We carry scissors designed to slide under rope easily without cutting skin.

Instead of rope you can also use silk ties. They’re great because you can repurpose them - for example, as a blindfold.

Blindfolds

When you blindfold someone, you remove one of the five main senses - which instantly makes all the others sharper. You don’t know when, where, or how your partner will touch you or what they’ll do next, so you’re on edge with anticipation the entire time. Maybe spanking, tickling, or something else entirely.

Instead of silk ties, you can also use a mask. Even a sleep mask will do!

For those who want more, there are hoods that cover the entire head except the mouth. You won’t just see less - you’ll hear less, too. That sensory deprivation is far more intense than a simple blindfold.

Gags

A gag can seriously muffle your partner. There are many sizes; if you’re new, start smaller.

A gag often makes swallowing saliva difficult, so avoid keeping your partner on their back too long - or in any position where saliva could enter the airway. Yes, people have choked. Safety first.

To prevent that, agree in advance on a non‑verbal safeword or signal so you can call a break at any time.

Nipple clamps

Do you enjoy nipple play - or even need it to climax? If yes, you’ll probably love nipple clamps. Don’t be scared off thinking they must hurt. If you’re not into pain, choose adjustable clamps - they can actually feel pleasant, especially as a start.

There are more extreme options, too - like weighted clamps.

Place them at the base of the nipple or on the areola. They lightly restrict blood flow and heighten sensitivity for even more stimulation.

Spanking toys

Paddles

At some point, a spanking hand just isn’t enough - enter the paddle. Why a paddle?

Because paddles are far more versatile than a hand. A hand can do a lot, but there are so many types of paddles that your palm simply can’t compete.

Many paddles are padded on one side and flat on the other. They’re made from different materials and feature varied textures. Some have holes for extra sting or cheeky cut‑outs and patterns that leave fun marks.

A quick spanking tip:

If your paddle has a padded side, start with that to gently warm your partner up - just like warming up muscles before a workout. Begin with your hand, then switch to the paddle. And vary your strikes; throw in a harder swat now and then and then ease off again.

Floggers

There are tons of different floggers. You’ll find them in our whips category. Floggers and whips aren’t the same, but they live in the same aisle on our site.

A flogger has a handle and multiple tails - that’s what sets it apart from a whip, which has just one.

Floggers can be very gentle. If the material is softer, flogging can feel almost like a massage. If you want bite, pick one with firmer, wider tails - or better yet, braided tails. Those can really sting.

Even silicone floggers, though soft to the touch, deliver a spicy snap.

Before using a flogger or a whip, practice on a cushion. If you don’t have a good sense of the tail length or your aim is off, flogging can be dangerous!

And remember: with a flogger it’s all in the wrist. Don’t use your whole arm or you’ll tire quickly.

Whips

Whips aren’t for beginners, so a quick note only. Even many spanking fans give whips a miss.

Compared to floggers, whips are vastly more painful and can easily leave scars. They’re longer and require much more control - accidents happen fast if you don’t know what you’re doing.

If you want to use a whip, be extremely careful and practice a lot!

Canes

There are two main types of canes: rattan canes and riding crops.

The thinner the rattan cane, the sharper the sting - the flesh wraps around it a little, which is why it hurts. Thicker canes also pack a punch and can leave bruises.

With riding crops, you typically strike with the tip.