13 Myths About Sex!

Sex education at school and at home is usually quite inadequate. Because of this, many people have quite a few wrong ideas about sexuality and sex. Are you up for revealing what is true and what isn't? Let me introduce you to the 13 most common myths about sex:

1. Masturbation is harmful

Not only is masturbation not harmful, it can actually be healthy for you. But of course, within reasonable limits, as with anything else. It helps you sleep better, improves your mood, relaxes you, eases menstrual cramps, reduces stress, and much more.

People knew this centuries ago, until a 12-page anti-masturbation pamphlet was published in London in 1756. In it, someone anonymously shared some made-up facts about how masturbation is harmful. And all of a sudden, people in Europe started seeing masturbation as one of the worst things you could do. Unfortunately, much of that belief has survived to this day.

2. If you use sex toys, sex with your partner will feel pointless

In fact, the exact opposite is true. Especially if you use toys together with your partner. Research shows that couples who spice up their sex life with toys report that their sex has only improved.

If you're worried you won't feel like having sex with your partner if you use toys solo, that fear is unnecessary too. No toy, no matter how amazing, can replace the intimacy and closeness that only another person can give you.

3. When a girl has sex for the first time, she bleeds because the hymen tears

The hymen does not always tear. This can happen if there isn't enough lubrication. But if it does get injured, it also heals afterward.

In most girls, the hymen is quite stretchy. And if there is enough lubrication, natural or with a lubricant, then it does not tear at all and it doesn't hurt.

Some girls are even born without a hymen. Most, however, have a hymen that covers only a small part of the vaginal opening. Others have a hymen that covers a larger part of the vaginal opening. Very rarely, someone is born with a hymen that covers the entire opening and therefore needs surgical removal.

4. You need to pee after sex

This applies to women and YES, it is true!

Women have a shorter urethra, which means we can quickly get an infection because bacteria reach the bladder faster. During sex, we are even more exposed to various microorganisms that can enter the urethra. By going to the bathroom as soon as possible after sex, you flush out all these bacteria before they cause problems.

5. If someone has a sexually transmitted infection, you can always tell

Another myth. Many people think they will obviously see right away if their partner has some sexually transmitted infection. In reality, that isn't the case. Many people sometimes have no symptoms at all and don't even know they have anything, but they can still be carriers. Examples of such infections are chlamydia, gonorrhea, AIDS, or genital herpes.

6. If you wash a condom well, you can reuse it

We use condoms to protect against sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy. A condom that has already been used will not provide that protection.

It will be very difficult for the condom to be completely clean, and as such, it cannot protect against sexually transmitted infections. In addition, it will no longer fit properly, which means it can slip off. You also don't know whether the condom is damaged. And if it is, it is more likely to break or leak.

7. If you have sex during your period, you can't get pregnant

You can get pregnant when you ovulate, and that happens once in a menstrual cycle. The problem is that sperm can survive in a woman's body for up to 7 days. This means that if you have intercourse 7 days before ovulation, you can still get pregnant. You may ovulate just a few days after your period. And in that case, you can get pregnant.

Many people also think you can't get pregnant the first time you have sex. But for the same reasons, that isn't true either. You can get pregnant if you have sex around ovulation or a few days before.

8. If you have anal sex, you can't get pregnant

In principle, this is true. The uterus is not connected to the anus in any way. However, if you have unprotected anal sex and semen leaks out, or your partner ejaculates near the vagina and semen gets into the vagina, then there is a chance you could get pregnant.

And even though that chance is very small, condoms are highly recommended for anal sex. Not only because of the possibility of pregnancy, but because the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections during anal sex is much higher than with other forms of sex.

9. If you swallow semen, you can get pregnant

This is also a myth. There is no connection between the intestines and the uterus or vagina, so there isn't even the slightest chance that you could get pregnant because you swallowed semen.

10. You don't need to use protection if the guy pulls out before he comes

The withdrawal method is an extremely poor form of contraception. Statistically speaking, one in five women who use this method of protection becomes pregnant. It only takes one time for the man to fail to pull out in time.

In addition, the problem is that before a man has an orgasm, there is also pre-ejaculate. This is a small amount of fluid that can sometimes contain sperm. And if they reach the egg, fertilization can occur.

11. A woman's vagina stretches out if she has sex with different men

Did you know that after a woman gives birth, her vagina returns to its original state? The vagina is designed to stretch and then contract back again.

Sex with different partners therefore cannot stretch out the vagina, unless she sleeps with someone who has a really large penis. But even after that, the vagina returns to its original state almost immediately, and her next partner will in no way be able to feel a difference.

I would also mention here that when a woman is aroused, her vagina not only becomes wet, but also expands and lengthens. A tight vagina most often means that the woman is not aroused. If you notice that the girl you're with is very tight, make sure you include enough foreplay. Also pay attention to whether she is relaxed enough and, if needed, use lubricant.

And if you don't make sure she enjoys being with you, she will want sex with you less and less.

12. If a woman doesn't orgasm during sex, it means her partner is incompetent

A woman's orgasm often does not depend only on the right stimulation, but also on her mindset. If she is stressed or worried about something, her partner can do everything right and she still may not be able to orgasm.

Certain medications and sometimes even hormonal contraception can also affect whether she reaches climax.

Sometimes the problem is also that men don't know that the clitoris plays the biggest role in the female orgasm. On average, around 75% of women need additional clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Penetration alone is often not enough.

13. If a man likes anal sex, it means he is gay

You are gay only if you are attracted to men. If you are attracted to both men and women, then you are bisexual. So if you like anal sex, it only means you know what feels good. It definitely does not mean you are gay.

The prostate is located in the male anus. And the prostate is like the male G-spot.

It is a sexual gland that can lead to an orgasm much more intense than a regular one. In addition, research shows that prostate massage reduces the risk of prostate cancer and the chances of erection problems when you are older. This means that with regular prostate stimulation, you are also taking very good care of your health.