Collars, leashes

The collar is most often worn by the sub, showing the world that they have a partner. It could be said that it displays that they are the “property” of someone. Thus, other people involved in BDSM will not approach or flirt with such a person. Such behavior is considered extremely disrespectful both to the submissive sub and to their owner (“dom”). It also represents a clearly unwanted invitation to bed, to which the BDSM community, which constantly emphasizes the importance of consent, has zero tolerance.

These day collars besides showing ownership also display protection and care, which the dominant person provides to the sub. Their appearance varies from discreet small chains with, for example, a lock pendant, to more noticeable chains and leather collars with rings, hearts, spikes, etc. A day collar thus does not necessarily have to be a collar, but just a small lace choker, which nobody knows is associated with BDSM, but the person wearing it feels safer and is aware that they are submissive to their partner.

Collars can also be worn by subs who do not have a dominant partner, to symbolize their submissive role, while single or committed dominant individuals might wear, for example, a key-shaped pendant.

When a submissive and dominant person enter a relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, the dom can decide whether to gift a collar to the sub or not, or when to present it. The relationship, upon the introduction of a collar, a symbol of commitment to each other, gains strength and seriousness.

Some even treat it as a “kinky” engagement ring, although this is not the case for everyone. There are indeed several different types of collars that a dominant person can introduce to a submissive partner:

• Everyday collar is usually a small piece of jewelry that is not obviously associated with the BDSM scene, and the submissive person wears it to maintain awareness that they are the property of the dominant partner, who also offers security and protection, or to indicate that they take a submissive role in BDSM relationships.
• Collar of consideration is given in the early stages of a relationship as a symbol that the partners are entering into a relationship and are not seeking other/new partners.
• Training collar comes into use when the dominant and submissive person enter into a more serious relationship that has clearly defined boundaries and roles of each partner.
• Protection collar can be given by a partner or a single dominant individual to a single sub, as it does not symbolize commitment in a relationship, but only protection and guidance, which can be completely platonic.
• Ownership collar carries the greatest weight and is the collar that symbolizes complete devotion and exchange of power in the relationship. They usually have a lock or a metal ring that cannot be removed without a key. If the submissive person removes this collar or if the dominant partner takes it away, it means the end of the relationship or a break in the relationship.
• Playtime collars are those that are most prevalent in our offer - these are products suitable for use in the bedroom and do not necessarily have a special meaning.

Not everyone will attribute special meaning to collars, but many will. Therefore, communicate well with your partner about what the collar you use symbolizes for both of you. This way, you avoid misinterpretations of your relationship. Of course, you don’t want one to treat it like a wedding ring, while the other removes it after every minor argument.

Play Collars and Leashes

Collars suitable for use in the bedroom are usually leather or fabric and withstand much more stress than everyday collars (chains and chokers). They close with metal buckles that will not automatically loosen, open, or tear when pulled on a collar or leash. They often also have rings to which a leash can be attached, allowing you to walk your partner around the apartment, pull the leash during sex, or use the collar to position them in a desired stance, thus demonstrating your dominance.

These collars are therefore also wider, made of softer materials, and occasionally padded or lined with faux fur on the inside. This makes wearing them more comfortable, and during stronger pulls, the force is distributed over a larger area of the neck.

Some collars are so wide that they completely prevent the person wearing them from moving their head and neck, thus further contributing to movement restriction.

Use collars and leashes carefully

Since a collar or leash is an accessory that is placed around the neck, it must be fitted and used carefully. This way, you avoid interrupting the supply of oxygen or blood to the brain - both of which can cause severe permanent health issues, or can even be fatal.

• The collar should not be too tight: there should be enough space for at least 2 fingers between the neck and the collar.
• Do not pull on the collar or leash too strongly or quickly. Use less force, and the load on the collar should be constant. Otherwise, severe injuries to the windpipe or cervical vertebrae can occur.
• Do not use collars and leashes for hanging.
• Do not make a collar out of rope, especially if you do not have much experience with shibari and intend to use it during (rough) sex.

Although the thought of walking your partner with a collar and leash in the park might excite you, be aware that this is legally prohibited in many places. In the best-case scenario, you and your partner will only receive strange looks, but others might create a fuss. By performing fetishes and other sexual activities in public, you expose a crowd of people (including minors!) who did not consent and most likely do not wish to witness this.

There are sex clubs where you can enter carefree with a collar and leash. There, these accessories again demonstrate commitment in the relationship, if one partner wears the collar and leash, and the other holds the leash in their hands. If a person wears a collar and holds the leash in their mouth, it lets others know that they do not have permission from the dominant partner to speak.